Words of Wisdom: Week 4

This is a mini version of WoW Friday's! I'm at my home-away-from-home at the moment, I hope you are all having a lovely start to your weekend!

I've spent so much time with so many people who only care about what others think about them. Always asking questions about what so-and-so thinks about them, not wanting to wear certain things because they are worried about what others will say.

I think you should forget all of that. Forget all of the people that only want to judge you and be negative. Wear whatever you like. Find people who bring out the best in you. People who embrace exactly who you are, and whatever you like. If it makes you happy, just do it. Be happy!

Words of Wisdom: Week 3

You are beautiful. I don't think people say that enough to one another. These days, with the media and what not, we feel so pressured to look like others, and we are paranoid about how we look all the time. I know I get like that sometimes. You have to remember that just because you feel this way, that doesn't mean that you are.

how you feel/how ir really is by rocketrictic

I've always wanted to see myself from another perspective. That would be the coolest thing ever, but it'll never happen. It would be so interesting to see yourself in another persons eyes, and see how they see you, and figure out what they are thinking when they see you. Until someone creates an app for that, just feel good about who you are, and how you see yourself. You may think you aren't looking the best one day, but I bet there are many people looking at you thinking, "Wow, what a cool person. We should be friends".

You're a very good person, inside and out. Remember that.

Words of Wisdom: Week 2

Something that has really been grinding my gears lately is guys that think that girls wear makeup and dress for them. Guys that like "natural beauty" and crap like that. After reading this article, I felt like running up to the nearest male and screaming. (Sometimes I get angry..)

Here is a snippet of the article:

In the end that's what really, really pisses me off about the whole thing -- that we can read about how men don't like us to wear makeup on page 39, then turn to page 40 and see photos of gorgeous models who spent hours in the makeup chair or ads for the very same cosmetics we don't need.

It's the disconnect of being trained since birth to look a certain way, only to have dudes turn around and go, "Don't you know we hate all that stuff on your face?" Like it was our idea! Like women collectively woke up one day and thought, "Wouldn't it be awesome to slap a bunch of chemicals and dyes on our faces every morning from now on?"

I hate the fact that guys see makeup as 'covering up the ugly'. Makeup, to me, is a way of enhancing features and making me feel better about myself. There are women in this world that don't wear makeup, and I give props to those people. But just because women wear makeup, doesn't make them "unnaturally pretty". No one has to have makeup. Sometimes its a way for girls to just feel better about themselves; not to look more attractive when it comes to guys.

Words of Wisdom: Week 1

When I was 12, I sat in my friends house drinking smoothies and discussing pop-culture (probably talking about who Lizzie McGuire was dating at the time). Then out of the blue, my friend was talking about how fat she was. At 12, I didn't really know the best words to respond, or even to comfort her. I remember telling her, "You aren't fat, you just have some larger bones than any other people." At 12, that was the best I could do.

I remember coming home and asking my mother about who is considered fat and who isn't, and she just said that "People were born in different shapes and sizes", and that was that. That didn't really help me much at the time, but I was young and I just forgot about it.

I remember when I was in 9th grade and there was a girl in my class with an eating disorder, which seemed to be the most interesting news to some people. I remember being in a class with a guy (who wasn't a very nice person, may I add!), and he said something about my thighs, calling them "thunder thighs". I laughed along with him, but who is he to make comments about my body? I didn't ask for his opinion. I hate so much when I hear friends say that "This boy won't like me because I don't weigh 100 pounds". He isn't worth it.

I remember going over to a friends house and everyone would discuss what they dislike about themselves. It wasn't that I had super high self esteem, I just didn't want to see myself in a negative light. Maybe I didn't like some part of my body, but life is life. If you are healthy and alive, don't spend another moment criticizing yourself or your body. Someone makes a rude remark about you or the way you look, don't listen to them. At 6, 12, 16, 25, and any other age, how you look is not something to obsess over. Don't let your thighs, your weight, or anything else or what anyone else says, define who you are.

J.K Rowling once said that quote, and it is entirely true. People never forget rude words. I can still remember where I was, where I was sitting, and what we were doing, when that guy commented on my thighs. People don't forget bad things. We all have scars, but lets use those to make us a better person.

Like my mother said, we are all in different shapes and sizes. Some girls are smaller than others, and some girls are bigger than others. Some girls are a size 14, and some girls are a size 4. If I knew what I do now about the scarring effect that this topic has on girls, I would tell my 12 year old self to stop my friend, tell her how loved she is, and that she doesn't need to change a thing about herself.

We are all humans, and we all need some love sometimes, even if its learning to love ourselves.